The Realities of Life After Graduating…

Hello again!

I come to you as a Woman Lol (I joke). A blog post has been pending but writer’s block has seriously been stopping me, lately. But I’m here now, I don’t know where this post is gonna lead to but a few things have been kicking off lately.

Let’s talk about graduate life…So I’ve literally been applying non-stop since July, been to a few, but not many interviews. The struggle is that everyone expects you to have experience! I’m fresh out of university looking to, GAIN EXPERIENCE and I get told I need to have experience. Okay. Well, this was not what I anticipated.

I mean I wasn’t even keen on looking for unpaid internships but it’s become an option. I’m so ready to get stuck in and learn a lot about my career. However, the requirements sometimes, are out of this world. I’ll probably sound like I’m babbling on right now but it’s true.

You never know how badly you want something when it feels like you can’t have it. But the underlying factor of this is making sure you PERSEVERE! I’ve put my mind on applying every day without fail. Even if it’s just one job, Its something! The number of rejections I’ve had is devastating but that little voice in the back of my head just says, “Bose that’s not the job for you, keep going!”. Once I put my mind to something I GET RESULTS!

Just had my interview with Vivienne Westwood yesterday and It was literally the best interview I’ve ever had, I’ve never felt so free and confident before. I prepared, I knew a lot about the company, but I love how they made it more about me, my motivations and my experiences. Rather than testing me! Must give a shout out to the team at Vivienne Westwood.

I woke up this morning in awe of the email I got stating that I’ve been offered the position! I was over the moon! *Inserts Track – Post Malone – Congratulations* I must say this is God! Giving me the willingness to push through even when things are tough!

I’m not even writing this post to boast about my opportunity but I was thinking of this post for a while now and I was Just about to write about the struggles of how hard it has been and the realities of Graduate Life… So I hope some of this post will inspire and motivate you guys to pursue whatever you want!

So let’s move on to… LIFE AFTER UNIVERSITY WITH NO STUDENT FINANCE. Let me tell you the BROKE life is real after university unless you have secured that salary job, times are really hard out here. I mean, I’m working during the weekends but that’s not even enough, I’m grateful to even have a job but the fact that it’s not in the field I want is a total bummer.

I think that’s another thing that drives my motivation! I wanna keep moving up no matter how hard or long it’s gonna take like I said DON’T GET COMFORTABLE WITH BEING COMFORTABLE.

Don’t get me wrong the competence and demand out there is so crazy right now it can put people off. But you can and You will, There is something out there for everyone and we just have to put our mind to it!

One thing they don’t tell you is that not everyone has their shit together once they Graduate, A couple of us are still here trying to find ourselves. And honestly, that’s Okay…To be honest just because you have graduated don’t feel the pressure of having to get into something for the sake of it. Find out your true passion and pursue it! Its so easy to say let me just get this job because I need money now, but honestly whatever is for you will eventually come to you, just believe in it!

I could probably ramble on more but, I think you already get the gist ha ha! Sooo….

To sum up this post, the moral of the story is… I’ve learned that “All That Glitters Is Not Gold” likewise “Being a graduate is really not what you think it is”! It is what you make it…I always underestimated the fact that Life after University is hard but I believe it now.

I really hope you understood where I was coming from In this post and I hope to get through to one or maybe even two of you, who have read this post!

Let me know some of the things you have learned about similar scenarios, I would love to know down in the comments section!

Outfit Details

Top, Sunglasses & Earrings – Primark

Jeans (I rolled up) – Next

Shoes – New Look

Love From, Bose x

Just A Little Thought …

So I have come on here right now on a random Monday evening casually thinking of different things, having various thoughts running through my head/mind. Listening to my ultimate fave artist Jhene Aiko – While We’re Young. I’ve been thinking of doing a slightly different post for a while now. Ive had such an extreme year, which has taught me a number of things and lessons. Ive had ups and downs that have made me who I am today. Lost a couple close people, been in situations where I wanted to be totally disconnected so I didn’t have to face or deal with certain situations. It was the hardest thing ever. I don’t think my character and personality has been tested so much on so many levels. The only thing that kept me going was being distracted by so much university, work and the gym. Which has done me well TBH! LOL as I’ve achieved a 2:1 overall in my degree and a whopping 1st class in my dissertation.

Some people have asked me how did I manage to do it and I tell you, I actually don’t know. Like, there were so many ups and downs during my degree. I’ll have times where I’m upset and I just couldn’t be asked to write 100 words out of 9,000. I think my motivation was really just telling myself to get out of my room in the ‘Unhappy’ mindset I was in and just pick up my books and study.

So I’d head to the library as that was the only place I will force my mind to keep at it. My supervisor was alright, but she didn’t give me all the advice I needed. It was more like I had to read between the lines lol. Although, I’m so grateful for what I achieved. Another motivation tip for me was, watching motivational videos like Brian Tracy, TD Jakes, Marie Forleo and some others. (If I remember I’ll update this post) They really helped me to stay on top of things. I also believe in channelling the energy that has brought you down to pick yourself up! For example, having a good nights sleep after a rough time or day and waking up early, having breakfast, doing your makeup or something to make you feel better and heading straight to the library.

Like even though so much has happened, I’m grateful to be alive, to be moving on with life and finally understanding and appreciating what I have now. It’s sometimes hard to be happy and content with things when everything feels wrong. But I’ve learnt that being grateful is everything and you slowly begin to appreciate more even when things are tough.

St Lucia really changed my perspective on life, after seeing my grandmother who has been ill for years. It really sank in that there is more to life than stressing over everything, its uncontrollable for you to be able to have everything perfect and that is fine. Everyone learns differently at different times and in different situations. I could go on forever, but I hope you kind of get what I saying here Lol

I’m honestly proud of all the achievements I had made this year even though the year hasn’t even ended. I’ve really come a long way with myself and I’m incredibly glad to have created an amazing platform to share this with myself and others. Its still in the growing process but I know it will get there. Some of you may know that I used to have a blog in my first year of university, which gained over 1,000 views in 1 and half years. It was a big achievement for me because I constantly saw it growing. However, I wanted more and I wanted Better! Sadly I came to the conclusion of deleting that blog and starting over hoping to create a brand new, professional layout and design. My content was limited, mostly fashion. Which I do like, don’t get me wrong. But it wasn’t everything to me. I wanted to incorporate, food, beauty, lifestyle and most importantly Travel. Anyways Long story short. I created this, which I absolutely LOVE. My own domain and my own layout! What an achievement!

Lastly, I would like to thank my friends, most of all for motivating me and supporting each other through everything, because we all started somewhere and now we are all doing what we want to do, moving up! They also have blogs, you should go check it out:

Benedine <3



“Channel the energy, that has brought you down to bring yourself up!”