Amsterdam Food Guide

Welcome back to my new blog!

After what felt like a long wait for me to transition and change the layout. I finally made it happen. As some of you may know over the period of no blog posts, I have been keeping consistent with producing content on my social media channels. It actually helped me find myself a bit too. Sometimes, we all need a break and a chance to start at fresh. Over a few months, I found one of my true passions, which is cooking and all things food. I’m a foodie at heart and I never thought it was something I loved so much until I truly discovered, how passionate I was in my element. Which was simply, making a meal or going out to eat and being in awe of the presentation, as a result of wanting to take as many pictures I could to get the best shot.

I knew I loved cooking since university, but I never thought It was something I was passionate about or would even develop. Now I have great big dreams of a career in Food. I recently incorporated videos and created my new YouTube channel based on food and lifestyle videos. So stay tuned guys – Link to my youtube channel

In my last post I promised you guys I would do a Food Guide, so I will be doing just that…

In July, I travelled to Amsterdam to celebrate my 22nd birthday and obviously as the foodie that I am. I visited a few different restaurants and was eager to try out some of the staples I had been seeing on the gram!

WYERS Restaurant – Lunch (Day 1)

On the first day, we arrived just after breakfast and decided to stroll around the town and explore all the different shops, hangouts and place to visit. Whilst doing so we happened to find one of the restaurants, on our list of places to visit, Wyers Restaurant. This was recommended in KikeAj’s vlog (thanks for that sis! lol) I must say the interior design was gorgeous! I could just imagine how beautiful it would look at night for a cute dinner date or special occasion. I managed to take some cute pictures of the terrace that I might insert somewhere here:

Overall what were my thoughts on the food? Well, I wish I didn’t get the hot dog tbh. It was too spicy for me and way too filling. Ideally, I should have got the burger as that looked way more appetising. But I previously heard a lot about Dutch hot dogs and how nice they are so I thought it would exceed my expectations. The worst thing is, I didn’t even finish it either :/ Most times, I prefer to stick to what I know, to be honest, but I was feeling quite adventurous that day.

Rating

Food: 5/10

Service: 7/10

Comfort/Environment: 9/10

MR CHURROS

Churros are dotted around the place in Amsterdam so make sure you try them out. we found a cute place in town where all the big shops like Primark, H&M etc were. If you do go to that part of Amsterdam make sure to look out for this sign in the picture! The CHURROS were amazing!

 

Hard Rock Cafe, Amsterdam – Dinner

The Hard Rock Cafe has always been on my list of places to visit! I have never been to the one in London but I thought why not experience it elsewhere first. So we did. We decided to get the Jumbo Combo Platter. When they said “JUMBO COMBO” they really weren’t lying, because this platter was huge! We were going to get a main and possibly even dessert but this topped it off. The onion rings, chicken wings and strips, were so delicious but its a shame there wasn’t enough of it. The spring rolls and bruschetta weren’t nice in my honest opinion, it tasted very dry and weird flavoured. Not my cup of tea. Everything else was great. The service was amazing, our waitress was so welcoming to the fact that we were tourists, recommending us a few hotspots and top places to visit if only I remember her name. One of the team members also took such an amazing picture of us both which I will insert below =D

Our incredibly huge onion ring stack!

Myself and Benni =D                                     Me being indecisive lol

Rating

Food: 8/10

Service: 8/10

Comfort/Environment: 7/10

Mook Pancakes – Breakfast (Day 2)

Mook Pancakes was a blast of an option for breakfast. As recommend again on social media as one of the hotspots to visit when in Amsterdam. I thoroughly enjoyed my experience. The pancakes were incredibly fluffy and topped off with unlimited maple syrup which is handy when having fluffy pancakes. I went for a mixture of berries on mine as I’m not too keen on bananas at times. The service was very welcoming once again and also very accommodating to my blogger needs haha! To accompany such great tasting pancakes we ordered fruit teas, which we actually thought they were ice teas loool, then realised they were “hot” tea. Which were great tasting too! I must comment on the great music choice they played. A variety of hip-hop, RnB was also very fitting whilst enjoying such a lovely breakfast. My overall experience was lovely and I would definitely visit again!

Rating

Food: 8/10

Service: 8/10

Comfort/Environment: 8/10

Sir Adam Hotel – The Butcher – Lunch

The hotel which we stayed at had a restaurant. Due to us being very full we decided to have a cocktail and chicken wings. I must say they were really good! The cocktails were strong and refreshing! The presentation was lovely too! If you know me well I’m quite particular with the presentation of food. The service was pretty simple as we didn’t order a whole meal.

Rating

Food & Drinks: 8/10

Service: 6/10

Comfort/Environment: 7/10

and that’s all folks!

I’m sure there was plenty more to explore but we didn’t have much time, so this is all we managed to get up to! I hope you enjoyed this post and be sure to comment if you visited or will visit any of these restaurants or if you enjoyed this kind of blog post! =D

Love from, Bose xo

Bold in Blue – Amsterdam Travels

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I can finally say that I’ve celebrated my 22nd birthday and what an eventful week it has been. Took a spontaneous trip to Amsterdam, Netherlands 🇳🇱 for the first time. It was a short break but so worth every minute of it! I was able to come out of my comfort zone, be independent and organise a trip of my own. I have always gone on holiday with my family and never experienced a holiday without them. It was very new to me, having to remember my passport and the responsibility of planning my own trip. But it was an experience I certainly loved to embark on.

This year has been full of ups and downs, but most of all building my confidence and embracing what I love and feel passionate about. I discovered that I love food, I have a passion to keep creating content around it and hopefully to do more travelling and showcase a few places to eat around the world.

This year has made me bold within myself and also the outfits I choose to wear. The outfit I chose for my birthday is a visual representation of my personality, bubbly, outgoing, fun, spontaneous, visually inspired and creative. Have you noticed the primary colour coordination Red, Blue & Yellow! I love it because it complimented my skin so well!

If I haven’t expressed enough, my favourite colour has always been blue and it hasn’t ever changed. This outfit made me feel so confident and completely flattering for my figure. Paring this outfit with a Red lip from sleek makeup was one of the best decisions I made as it tied in so well with the “bold colours” look I was going for.

Ideally I wanted to name this look “Primary Colours” as that is literally what it is. Haha! One of of my favourite looks to date and I won’t at all be surprised If I wear the same outfit again soon.

Outfit Details

Playsuit – Boohoo on ASOS.com – (£25)

Slides/Mules – New Look (£8.99)

Red Lip – Sleep Matte Me (£4.99)

Hair – LeModa Hair Aliexpress (Price depending on lengths)

My whole outfit didn’t cost a whole bomb and wasn’t at all uncomfortable which I’m very happy about as my goal was to just be relaxed and comfortable for this whole trip and my birthday. ASOS has been my go to as of recently for shopping, as I collect points whilst I shop, which calculates up to a voucher after a certain amount of points.

What did I love the most about this outfit?

The way it expresses me as a person, the way I felt free and less restrictive in flowy clothing. How pretty and flattering the frills are around my thighs and the fact that I wore some of the brightest colours I’ve ever worn in my life for my birthday celebration.

What have you learnt from being 21?

I have learnt to live everyday with a positive mindset, have faith in God through all I might face. Never live a dull moment, haha. Take the L’s and move on. Focus on yourself and watch yourself flourish like you’ve never seen before.

What plans do you have for the coming year?

I have plans to do more travelling hopefully if universe permits me! I have plans to create and embark on more opportunities for myself career wise. I really want to network more and potentially work with people on my blog and other platforms.

What would be your most fulfilling goal/reward this year?

Personally, financial stability. Let’s be honest we all need a bit of cash to do what we really want to do. I’m definitely one to really worry about finances, having it all figured out and being able to save up for emergencies. So ultimately I would like to work on increasing streams of income in order to fulfill and achieve everything else I need and plan to do.

I thought it would be great to make this more interactive and feel more like a conversation rather than be blabbing on about my outfit etc, haha. I hope you enjoyed reading and stay tuned for my next Amsterdam post about FOOD! 😀

Feel free to leave anymore questions down below and I’ll answer them Or email me and I’ll answer them in my next post!

Thank you for 4 years, blog anniversary!

Hello Everyone,

Today is something a little different and quite a big deal for me and my blog. I was recently approached by a childhood friend from secondary school, Omamerhi. Who also runs her own blog. She invited me for an interview to be posted on her blog about my blog and how it all started. When she approached me I was actually so surprised, I was very critical of myself and thought “wow I didn’t think my blog was even at that stage yet”. I have been blogging for about 4 years now and it hasn’t been an easy journey, constant doubts, giving up, feeling ashamed of my inconsistency at times. I’m still so critical about everything, there’s so much more I want to do and the quality of content I want to produce. I would like to thank you all in advance for your continuous support of my blog and everything you have contributed to include your comments and feedback (It keeps me motivated and I appreciate it so much!).

I thought this would be a lovely opportunity to let you know about how this journey started and where I feel like It will take me in the coming years…

In honour of my 4th year of blogging I will be inserting the interview below for you to read:

The Interview

Business and Management graduate and founder of www.bosefayodeka.com

1. Why www.bosefayodeka.com? Tell us a little bit about this venture. Was there a specific moment that sparked its creation or was it always buried within you?

Great question. I thought I would introduce myself first, my name is Bose Fayodeka and I currently run a food, fashion and lifestyle blog. I started my blog in my first year of university. Never in my life did I think I’d have a blog or anything of that form. I had two friends, Micah and Lizzie, who shared the same interest in blogging and making YouTube videos. I always knew I liked expressing myself, from a very young age so I thought I’d become a journalist or author when I was really young lol (maybe I will eventually write my own book). Anyway, we all kind of clicked as we had similar interests. Before we knew it, we were doing the first shoot for our blogs in the local field at our university and then I finally launched my blog.

Fun fact: my first ever blog was called www.stylebybose.co.uk which was hosted on Blogger.

2. I can imagine, there were probably times when it was tough juggling your studies and your blog. How did you keep the vision alive?

Yessss! All the time, even at the moment, it’s hard juggling my blog with my full-time job. But I’m so grateful as everything I’ve prayed for is slowly manifesting. I would say that what keeps the vision alive for me, is continuously making new content and seeing all the feedback from it. You just have to make time, if it’s your passion you will make sacrifices for it, even if it’s hard.

I’m so grateful as everything I’ve prayed for is slowly manifesting.

3. What’s next for www.bosefayodeka.com?

Hmm, I have plans to eventually work with restaurants and hotels and incorporate travel posts and diaries into my blog. I just really want to try new cultures, new foods and produce quality content. I would love to collaborate with as many brands as possible that I like and give honest reviews.

4. What THREE tips would you give to students who are still pondering whether to implement that idea or start that new business?

1. I would say just start. I’ve realised with most things, you can continue telling yourself you’re going to start them but you never actually do (sometimes out of fear). My first blog is a prime example, I started it knowing that my layout and template wouldn’t be the best, but then I found a better alternative that worked for me. This brings me to the next tip.

2. ‘Allow the process’ and ‘Believe in yourself’. I know you may hear this a lot but it’s so true. You have to be your biggest cheerleader at times because not everyone is going to be around you to make it happen for you, neither are they responsible for doing so.

3. The last tip is, don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need it. Doing something for the first time can be really hard so make sure you educate yourself by watching videos, reading blogs, forums and asking people who you know that have already done it. Don’t be shy or ashamed, it shows you want to pursue your dreams and network with other like minded people.

NUGGET OF WISDOM: Be your biggest cheerleader!

5. Where do you see yourself in the next FIVE years?

Oh wow, this question took me by surprise haha because by then I will be 26 years old, that sounds so old, I still feel very young. However, I would imagine myself well established and experienced in my career. Probably have had a few promotions or even working for myself – if I become that good! (By God’s Grace, I will!). I would like my blog to have grown and established to better levels: new layout, greater content and collaborating with brands and even other bloggers who share the same interests. Another important one is for me to give back to those who are less fortunate, or who simply just want to be better their career. I try to incorporate this into my everyday life by responding to people who need help or ask for it.

Omamerhi’s Blog: http://liveinthemoment.co/

Omamerhi’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/omams_/

Outfit Details

Flare Sleeved Top – Primark

Paperbag Flare Trousers – Missy Empire

Ankle Boots – River Island (Alternatively I’d pair with heels instead, on a warmer day)

Velvet Jacket – Debenhams (Julien Macdonald)

 

Thank you for reading & I hope you enjoyed this post, I look forward to the next one.

Accepting My Insecurities …

It’s been a while and long overdue a post. I like to write posts that come to mind instead of thinking too hard on it. I find it comes across more naturally. In today’s post we will be discussing a big insecurity of mine and why I struggle to create content around fashion sometimes.

Ever since I started blogging in 2014, I always thought I would be a successful fashion blogger who slays every outfit she puts on. I used to be so into fashion Inspiration on Pinterest and all that jazz, even tumblr before all these other blogging platforms came out. That’s where it came from. Time went by and I kept blogging about fashion and style on my old blog (stylebybose.blogspot.co.uk) which no longer exists. I started to drift away from it and became very inconsistent. Soon became a idle blog because I wasn’t proud of it. I needed a whole new layout, template, name, vision etc

So, in 2016 I created this new platform and I knew I wanted it to incorporate some sort of fashion and other stuff too. I’ve never really spoken about it but. I’ve always been insecure about my body shape and my bust size. I’ve always looked at myself and thought I’m just “top-heavy, big boobs. Small hips, not in proportion”. It has been a long hard struggle and still is a struggle to understand what suits my body and my shape. It’s one of the things that demotivates me, when it comes down to creating fashion content. It’s strange as most would say… how can you be insecure of something so many people aspire/pay to have. That’s true, but have you noticed how most brands are creating so many styles of clothing that tend to suit women with smaller busts or a smaller upper body.

To be honest these days I just feel like, It’s either my outfit looks way too casual or way too much. Because I struggle to find inspiration or dress according to my shape. Also, the fact that most brands are catering to tiny boobies or below “D” cups makes it so much harder for busty women to even embrace their bodies and all their curves. You’re probably thinking “why don’t you find inspiration from other people like you?” That’s the thing it’s so hard and rare to find. I mean the only people i’ve seen who are similar to my shape is Kezia Eniang & Devin Brugman (even her abs I’m still trying to aim for lol).

I think the point I’m trying to make is that I’m still trying to understand my shape and my style. It’s constantly changing and I’m trying to adjust and see what trends suit me and what don’t. On this occasion, I found this cute yellow off the shoulder number in a boutique in North London called “Miss Bardot” for only £5 and the Paperbag trousers from H&M for around £20 that I absolutely LOVE, because it cinches in my waist. As of recently, I’ve really been drawn to everything yellow as I feel it really compliments my skin tone and makes my outfits look put together on days where I don’t wanna try too much.

There are so many styles and outfits I would like to experiment with but I just know they won’t fit or suit my body shape, for example those cute bralets and cami bodysuits that everyone wears *cries*. However, I’m learning to love and embrace my body as it is, in what I feel most comfortable wearing.

I would love to know your thoughts on this topic and I’m open to new ideas or tips you may have and what you do to find outfits to suit your shape, drop them all in the comments and we can have a discussion! 🙂

Love From,

Bose x

5 Healthy Ways You Can Boost Your Self-Esteem

A collaborative post with Peter from High Style Life magazine

We have all struggled with self-esteem at some point in life, its just one of those things. But the main thing is learning how to deal with it when it becomes low. Regardless of our appearance, we’re all sensitive and vulnerable and lots of things can get to us. Of course, no one likes to talk about their weaknesses, but rest assured, they’re there. Even the most confident looking person has insecurities and their attitude is often a mere cover up for their lack of self-esteem. The important thing to know is that the amplitude of your insecurities looks quite similar to other people’s as well, and there’s nothing to be ashamed of when it comes to the issue. However, that doesn’t mean we should settle for low self-esteem. There are ways to improve it and recipes for quick fixes, as well as long-term ones, so let’s see what can actually be done about that.

Exercise

Peter: One of the ways to boost your confidence definitely is working out. It doesn’t have to be anything too demanding, Pilates, Zumba or aerobics or if you’re a fan of something else, you can go swimming (Bose: I really enjoy swimming, quite good at it too) or jogging on a regular basis or even start practising a specific sport recreationally. The goal is not to instantly convert yourself into a gorgeous sex symbol, but to feel good about yourself just because you’re doing something that benefits you and the exercises alone are making your body produce happy hormones, so it’s all settled.

Bose: I kind of forcefully stopped working out after leaving university as I wanted a gym that would give me the benefits that I need and be in a convenient reach to my house. I will definitely embark on this one very soon to prep myself for the summer and also just to aim to be fit. A lot of people want that goal body, which is fine depending on your preference but I just feel like you should, first of all, make it a lifestyle habit that you incorporate to stay active. Then once you feel like you’re at the stage to tone up specific areas, work on those main body parts. The way society is pressurised into feeling like a certain body type is ideal, that alone is enough stress to make your self-esteem low. Start smart and exercise for you!

Meet new people

Peter: Perhaps one of the reasons your confidence is in the gutter is the fact that you always spend time with the same group of people. That isn’t necessarily bad, but you should get yourself out there and make friends or something more. Try to act confident and eventually, you’ll believe your act. If you are wondering how to get a guy to notice you, you should know that all you need is to believe that you’re the most attractive person in the room and by doing so, you’ll convince everyone around you as well.

Bose: (I really struggle with this one sometimes, so I definitely need to consider some of these tips from Peter) Although I have improved on my confidence levels over the past years I do have my moments where I feel like ‘today is just not one of those days’ type of moods. But I have found that attending an event and some workshops have really made me get out of my comfort zone and meet like-minded or more experienced people who I can relate to.

 

Don’t compare and despair

Peter: There are people better than us and worse than us in any area, and there always will be. Comparing yourself to other people will bring you nothing but desperation and disappointment. I used to compare myself to the best guy in my class. He was much better than everyone else and regardless of how well I did something, it meant nothing to me since he was still so much better. However, we often don’t see the big picture. The truth was that the only thing he ever did in his life was studying, on the other hand, I was studying German, teaching English while going to school and I also had a social life. The moral of the story is that you should only compare yourself to yourself. See if you did something better than yesterday or a year ago. Keep track of your own progress and don’t obsess over other people.

Bose: We are all guilty of this, often I see myself doing this because of social media and as much as I love it, I have to discipline myself to take as many detoxes’ as possible. Currently taking one as we speak! I also found myself doing this a lot after my break up as I was constantly in my feelings and trying to distract myself from the feeling of hurt. But ended up sabotaging my mind even more. What I found helped me was focusing on myself and things that I wanted to accomplish rather than comparing my progress to others who live a completely different lifestyle to me.

Change your story

Peter: We all have that speech in our head prepared for situations when we fail to do something. I used to tell myself how stupid and incapable I am of doing anything right and when you deliver so much self-hatred in the time of yet another failure, it’s hard to pick yourself up, to say the least. This is why you need to convert that speech into a pep-talk. Think of everything good you’re doing or have done and been proud of your achievements. Focus on many different aspects. Maybe you have a gift for painting, cooking or driving a car. Perhaps you’re very mindful of other people and very altruistic? You can also think about what you do for the environment and whether or not you’re a good citizen.

Do something new

Peter: Whether it’s dying your hair or taking up a new hobby, everything is allowed. Change is good and it’s a great way to boost confidence. A lack of one is often caused by getting stuck in a rut. So, go ahead and leave your comfort zone, you’ll soon discover it’s a great place out there.

Self-love is the key to being confident. However, we find it hard to love ourselves in some situations and we should do our best to try and change that. Once you exit your comfort zone and change your story a bit, you’ll see how life can get a completely different colour and perspective.

In this post I was approached by Peter to collaborate and give you an uplifting post on self-esteem – Peter is a beauty & fashion editor at HighStyleLife magazine, living between the UK and AU. Besides writing he worked as a fashion stylist for many fashion events around Europe. Follow Peter on Twitter for more tips!

Outfit Details:

Shirt – Zara

Paperbag

Trousers – H&M

Jacket – H&M

 

 

Life After University: Internships & Seeking Digital Marketing Career/Role.

Life after university…

Let’s just say it hasn’t been an easy one! As I always wanted to document my journey, this blog post is based on just that. My aim is to help and inspire those of you who are also in the same position, to keep striving and reaching your goals.

My Internship.

As some of you may know if you read my blog posts. I started an internship last year in digital marketing for a very luxury fashion brand. I was extremely excited and ready to get into the field of work even though it was unpaid. I was also applying to many paid jobs at the time but kept on getting rejected/ignored. Meanwhile, I was quite frustrated and bored of not doing much with my time except waking up and feeling very unproductive. Quite fortunately, I was successful at the interview (one of the best interviews I’ve ever had because I felt so comfortable and knew what I was talking about) and decided to take on the opportunity and gain experience in my field.

When I first started I really enjoyed it and some of the colleagues I met along the way. There were many other interns like me in different departments, So I was never alone or feeling left out. Gradually, I got the hang of it and built a routine which I made sure to follow on my days at work. For example checking and updating their social media platforms, responding to emails, etc, the usual. Furthermore, my manager and other colleagues in my department would allocate tasks for me, but they were quite straightforward and didn’t really need too much thought. I always finished my tasks quite quickly so I ended up having a lot of spare time at hand.

Weeks went by and I started to feel unchallenged, Idle and bored. I was always asking for new tasks as I wanted to learn so much more and felt that my capabilities were much more than they expected of me. I felt like I was disturbing my manager as she became really distant and less responsive. It just felt awkward and uncomfortable. Bearing in mind I hate those kinds of situations, especially in the workplace. It got to the point where I didn’t even want to go in, because I knew I wouldn’t be given anything or much to do and I will just be at my desk tapping and sitting in front of the google screen or trying to write a blog post without anyone seeing me do so, haha!

Don’t get me wrong, I know I needed to use my initiative at times and create new ideas myself but as an intern you need support, you need to be taught the things you don’t know and the things they don’t teach you at University. However, this wasn’t really the case in this situation.

I must not forget, for over a month I wasn’t even given an actual desk and computer that was sufficient for the work I was given. Do you remember those exam desks in secondary school? My desk was even a little bit smaller than that with no space to write on, nowhere to store my little bits at work. It was so uncomfortable. Some people wouldn’t mind this, but knowing that you are not the only intern in the company and everyone else has a proper desk and working space/facilities sufficient to them, your thoughts would be…why am I different.

Long story short I really started to hate going into work and dreaded every day, knowing that I wasn’t learning anything much and not even getting paid for the hours I had put in. I decided to hand in my notice within the second month (meant to be 3 months), but to be honest, I really stuck it out for the 2nd month because I was so ready to leave. I knew I wasn’t being challenged and I knew I wasn’t physically being taught anything that I didn’t already know. So I left and it was the happiest decision I’ve made! I felt free no longer confined and working 7 days a week (because I had to work part-time in the weekends to pay bills and travel etc).

Jobless, Broke and Unhappy

So as you can imagine going from working 9 to 5 every day to no job was one of the worst feelings ever. I felt like I was back at square one! Nevertheless, I kept going, applying, getting rejected because I still didn’t have enough experience” at this point I was very frustrated that I took time out of my own week to work, unpaid and to still be unable to get a job. After a while, I stopped applying and started focusing on myself my blog and just bettering myself and the skills I already had. That’s where I started spending more of my time creating and improving my content.

I was randomly searching for marketing courses and came across Digital Grads, a graduate tailored platform that prepares you for a position in the marketing industry. I really enjoyed using my time to complete this course as it made me feel like I was working towards a goal. I was still working part-time during the weekends in retail but dedicated my weekdays solely to myself and personal development. Whilst doing this I barely applied for that many jobs and most of the job interviews that came my way were companies who reached out to me.

These companies looked amazing to work for and had such a good reputation in the industry. I strived for the interviews and really put in the work. One of them involved a presentation, which I’ve never had to do before in an interview but I really wanted this job, so I made sure to put effort into it.

Feedback came through 2 weeks later I was frustrated because they made me wait so long to say, “You were great and we really loved you but you didn’t have enough experience compared to other candidates”. At this point, I was just like why me? I went for another interview for a very successful media agency somewhere I would have loved to work, again. The first interview went well but guess what the feedback was: “we really liked you, but we feel like you would get bored after a while” wow. I’ve never heard of such a thing in life, I think I should at least have an input into whether I’d feel bored or not. They then suggested other roles and made me go through a second interview, oh and I forgot to add, I had to do tests for this specific company. I attended the interview, received feedback a week after poor communication on their end “We just feel you didn’t have much experience to other candidates” Oh My, at this point I was tired of hearing the same thing again after going through probably 20 or so interviews.

The Breakthrough!

One morning I got a call from the course (Digital Grads) I was doing, saying that they have a job opportunity for me and If I’m available for an interview asap. Although I felt very disheartened, upset, extremely not excited or hopeful. I stuck it out and went for the interview. Surprisingly I smashed it, I didn’t even feel up for it that day, I felt so down and hopeless. But I definitely, expressed my potential and what I have done and experienced to get me where I am today, me being totally real, how I grew my own platform out of nothing, how I started a blog 4 years ago and gained a good following but wasn’t proud of or confident in it, deleted it and started all over again.

It paid off. Every. Single. Piece. Of. Struggle. Was for a very. Good reason! I’m now happily working in the field of work that I always dreamed of in the position I never expected to be in as a self-starter. I am so grateful and I really hope this inspires you to keep going” Attaining and achieving your dreams, striving for success, even in the times where you feel like no one understands you or sees your potential. Let me tell you. SOMEONE SURELY WILL, JUST BELIEVE IN YOURSELF!

I know this is a long one but, as always, I hope it inspired, helped and encouraged you to keep going and believing in your situation. Have faith that you will overcome and achieve.

Thank you so much for your support and reading my blog.

Thank you to the team at Digital Grads for continuously, supporting me and encouraging me to keep going till the end! (This is not sponsored content, I just really recommend it to those of you who are looking to go into a digital marketing career, but have no idea how to).

Till next time…

Letting the bad go & the good flourish…

I have to be honest and say that I really enjoy writing about real life experiences, it just feels like I’m able to help and reach out to someone on a more personal level, even though I may not know them personally. I was really just going to make this a Fashion Post/Outfit of the Day (OOTD), but I love expressing myself on this platform and discussing passionately certain situations/experiences I have faced even though it can be hard sometimes.

Relationships…

The Background Story

So where do I start? Last year ended on quite a bad note for me, but also in a way, a positive note, I let go of a very long, hard and serious relationship. One where, yes I’m sure you heard it all before, “I thought this was the one, it’s going to last forever” type of thing. 2 and a half years. Someone who most definitely changed my life, my perspective on everything in general. Although, the relationship wasn’t all bad and there were many good times, ones that I will always cherish. It was definitely a situation where there was a cycle, a pattern of destruction, that I just never came to terms with. I always had hope that it will get better, no matter what anyone said to me. I definitely guarded that relationship with everything I had because I wanted it to get better and spend the rest of my life with this person. Now when I look back, I know that I fell deeply in love… for there is no other word to describe how I felt about him and what I was able to tolerate.

When it was good, our relationship was amazing but damaging and explosive when it was bad. We brought out a whole new side of each other’s personality with the way we argued, maybe if I was the one looking from the outside into my relationship, I would say toxic. But I was always drawn back and fond of the amazing moments that were made during our relationship. We were just young, hadn’t discovered or “found ourselves”.

As a result of all this, my self-esteem, self-confidence, insecurities all found their way of making me feel less of the woman I was. Something just didn’t sit right with me and my conscience. I just knew that I really changed and turned into a different person, everyone knew me as this fun bubbly and energetic person. Especially in my first year of university, I was so confident. Not to say I wasn’t at all the entire relationship, but I could definitely feel that my insecurities heightened. My confidence was gradually decreasing and my self-esteem was poor.

Being the over-thinker and the emotional Cancerian star sign that I am, my emotions were heightened on a massive scale during this relationship. I had never thought of myself to be much of a crier, but during this time, I cried with all my heart when things got too much, I must say, that I too was shocked at just how much one could cry over a man. Often after crying, I’d sit, think and analyse everything. This led to resentment and grudges being held over things we never fully resolved. As you can imagine, feeling this way for a long period of time is not only physically draining but more importantly mentally exhausting. I could never forget the things he did to hurt me. That’s when I knew that this was not ok, I was settling for less than I deserved.

Getting out of this relationship is probably the hardest thing I have ever done. I often doubt my decision to leave and found myself thinking ‘what if I just continued pushing through?’, ‘what if he was eventually going to change?’, ‘maybe I could have fixed him!’ but then i eventually came to terms with the fact that he was never going to change and if he was, it wasn’t going to be for me.

Friendships…

I have to say and give it up to all of my friends for putting up with me during this confusing but difficult period in my life. I have to say everyone tried to tell me and warn me, but I had an attachment to this person. I kept believing and having hope in him. I just saw potential. I appreciated my friends and their advice, but I honestly do believe that you have to be in a place where you are ready to let things go for yourself. You have to make the decision to choose your sanity over the person you claim to love. No one else could ever make that decision for you but yourself. It’s very hard though because everyone who cares for you knows your worth and wants the best for you and to be happy.

But if it’s not your time to let go, you will not do it until you are mental, physically and emotionally ready to do so. There were moments where I couldn’t and didn’t want to tell anyone about anything I was dealing with or going through in that relationship. Distanced myself from people and everyone because I felt embarrassed and ashamed and just knew that the more I vented my feelings about the situation the more I felt like people would judge me for my actions, I know its bad but its true. When people are telling you things and you just don’t want to believe it, you just distance subconsciously.

I and my best friend of 6 years, grew apart for many reasons. She saw everything I had been through and couldn’t understand how I still wanted to stay in the relationship. I now understand how hard it must have been for not only her but everyone who cared for me to see me upset over the issues in the relationship most of the time. It definitely took a toll on some friendships as I found that I couldn’t really confide in my ex as much as I would have liked to. The more arguments the more emotionally distant he would become and so would I. This then led to me confiding and venting to my friends, which isn’t always the best option depending on the type of friends you have but, it gives you another perspective on the relationship from someone on the outside looking in.

As of recent, we re-kindled the friendship and little did we know were both experiencing heartbreak around the same time but due to us not talking we never actually knew. I must say our friendship was tested many times during the relationship, but we always bounced back no matter what.

What I have learnt?

  1. I learnt a lot about relationships with people in general.
  2. I learnt about myself, my personality despite going through it.
  3. It made me value the company I keep, who I let into my space. The people I surround myself with.
  4. It showed me my potential and how I can love when I genuinely have feelings for someone.
  5. It taught me the importance of self-love.
  6. It taught me how I need to work on myself and make myself whole before I choose to let anyone into my life like that again.
  7. It taught me that I want to be independent and stable on my own before I choose to be with someone.
  8. It taught me that I can be an emotional person
  9. It taught me what I want, need and cannot tolerate.
  10. Despite the negatives, I grew and developed, It made me stronger and would not say I regret anything.
  11. It brought me closer to God by trusting in him throughout the process.

This was a very long one but I hope you felt something from reading this and hopefully I am able to reach out to someone going through a similar situation.

Comment below and feel free to discuss with me as I love it when you engage with my posts, also look out for more topics related to this. Coming Soon…

2018 Goals: 10 Ways to Self-Love.

I could have easily given myself New Years resolutions this year, but I found something that works for me and habits I’ve implemented every day.

I’ve been reflecting on last year and how I overcame obstacles that occurred in the previous year. One of the things that came to mind was self-love.

Why?

Last year I went through and experienced a lot mentally, physically and emotionally. I saw a change in myself and my personality. I had a lot of doubts and low self-esteem (although sometimes I project otherwise). I became really low during university last year and even towards the end of last year. I just had thoughts that would come and go. Being the over-thinker that I am is very unhealthy at times because I could just drift off into my thoughts, sometimes even in the mist of hanging out with friends.

Towards the last year of university, I became more to myself and most times alone. Preferred my own space and company. I drifted apart from some friends during university, which kind of set my mood back a bit. I just wasn’t prepared for it or for that kind of experience, it was more confusing. Not like primary school days where you have little disagreements like “I’m not your friend anymore” but 10 minutes later you’re friends again. It was awkward and strange because you’re older now and you actually have to come to terms with it. Lol.

How I dealt with/overcame it?

Through all of this, I managed to keep myself distracted by working out at the gym whilst at university and focusing on my final year projects/exams. Even though it was hard to concentrate at times, I got used to it and it became a distraction. It then hit me once I was graduating again that “wow. I can literally count everyone I call a “friend” on one hand.”

What did I learn?

I have to say from this experience I learnt that I cannot please everyone by doing what is expected or the norm. But I wanted to be open and free to do as I please (of course not upsetting anyone in the process). Not to mention, I did doubt myself and what I did to lose the friends I thought I had, but I realised that I actually gave everyone the same love that I would give to anyone, I take the word “friend” very seriously. I used to, try to please or make everyone happy, which can be counterproductive, because like I said you cannot please everyone.

How I’m going to embark on making a change?

This is why I have chosen to dedicate this year 2018, to myself and giving myself the love that I gave and lost. At least I think I owe it to myself.

  1. Meditate/Pray (I incorporate both)
  2. Read more books! (The People Factor by Van Moody is a good one, especially for relationships and friendships)
  3. Go on walks, Clear your mind
  4. Network meet new people (I’m loving attending workshops, especially when they’re about digital marketing or empowerment) download Meetups or Eventbrite
  5. Journalling (Five Minutes In The Morning, The Focus Journal) I got mine from Anthropologie thanks to Micah and Lizzie!
  6. Pamper Myself (Get my nails done/my hair)
  7. Treat Myself (with FOOD of course or a new piece of clothing or a book, whatever tickles your fancy) I take myself to eat as well and hang out with friends. This helps me to come out of my thoughts, be myself and appreciate the people I do have around me.
  8. Blog more, Post More, Shoot more! This gives me a boost of confidence and just makes me want to push myself to be the best version of myself. Putting out content is one of the things that make me happy and really gives me an outlet to showcase a talent or two.
  9. AFFIRMATIONS! I can’t stress this enough, it’s hard, I’m still learning myself tbh but you need to compliment yourself! I remember when I used to think a compliment should only come from someone else, but, that’s not true. You also need to give yourself credit and praise yourself for being you and what you have achieved.
  10. Travel/Explore – Hopefully to travel more and experience new cultures and invest time into the things I love!

Overall I would definitely have to say positivity and perseverance have helped me through the hardest of times I’ve faced. I believe in spreading and affirming positivity into your life as what you do put out into this world will manifest. So amongst all these things I’ve listed, LEARN to train yourself to be as POSITIVE as ever. Even when it’s hard. (Trust me I know, how hard this is) but once it becomes a habit you will appreciate it more.

I really hope this will help you, to conquer the year and start right! As these things have really helped me, I’ve implemented most of them (as you may have noticed), but my aim is to travel more!

I would honestly travel the world and just try new food all day long and review hotels for a living lol. Maybe someday…

Disclaimer: I’m just being real and honest about what I’ve felt and gone through, hopefully, this helps someone!

Let me know if you have any questions or anything, also send through any topics or content you would like to see soon. Drop them in the comments or email!

Outfit Details

Coat – New Look

Bag – Zara

Knee High Boots – Select Fashion

The Nude.

On days, weeks or months where you’ve been feeling so ‘bummy’ and not in the mood to get that face beat or put on a cute outfit, this was the day that made the transition to feeling good again.

I think every girl goes through a low moment where they just don’t feel themselves, anxiety is kicking in or you’re simply just stressed out. I made it a plan to find an evening where I could actually get dressed up and take some good pictures for once. I feel like I’m always rushing when I’m out so I barely get to take as much outfit pictures as I want when I do make the effort to look good.

I always feel good in a cute little dress, whether it’s flaunting my collarbones with a Bardot style or showing off my legs. This nude number did just that! Complimenting my skin, legs and collarbones. I have to be honest its quite hard to find dresses or tops for figures like mine. Because I’m larger chested always tend to opt for loose-fitting things because I feel most comfortable in them. But this one worked out pretty well, although finding the right lingerie for this was so hard! I just opted for Adhesive Nipple covers in the end, which did absolutely nothing :(. Luckily I was carefree on that day so I didn’t mind much about how my body looked.

I purchased it a while ago in the H&M sale and it’s literally been sitting in my wardrobe waiting for an occasion. Its great quality with an incredibly soft material. I would say that it can be quite see-through, which you can clearly see as my nipples are saying hello to the world.

I decided to wear it on a girly night out to dinner and a few drinks. It’s a free-flowing Bardot dress that complimented my figure well, I don’t have much of ‘coco cola’ shaped body so dresses like this give me that illusion of it.

I paired it with some heels from New Look. They are a pink nude colour, which went so well with the look I was trying to achieve. As of recently, I’m more inclined to wear block heels because of how comfortable they are I don’t usually wear heels often but when I do I make sure they complement my outfit nicely.

I would have included the links to these pieces here but they aren’t in stock anymore. However, I would recommend looking at Missguided, PrettyLittleThing and New Look for something similar.

Hope you enjoyed this little OOTD.

Outfit Details:

Dress : H&M

Shoes : New Look

Accessories : Primark

Love From, Bose

The Realities of Life After Graduating…

Hello again!

I come to you as a Woman Lol (I joke). A blog post has been pending but writer’s block has seriously been stopping me, lately. But I’m here now, I don’t know where this post is gonna lead to but a few things have been kicking off lately.

Let’s talk about graduate life…So I’ve literally been applying non-stop since July, been to a few, but not many interviews. The struggle is that everyone expects you to have experience! I’m fresh out of university looking to, GAIN EXPERIENCE and I get told I need to have experience. Okay. Well, this was not what I anticipated.

I mean I wasn’t even keen on looking for unpaid internships but it’s become an option. I’m so ready to get stuck in and learn a lot about my career. However, the requirements sometimes, are out of this world. I’ll probably sound like I’m babbling on right now but it’s true.

You never know how badly you want something when it feels like you can’t have it. But the underlying factor of this is making sure you PERSEVERE! I’ve put my mind on applying every day without fail. Even if it’s just one job, Its something! The number of rejections I’ve had is devastating but that little voice in the back of my head just says, “Bose that’s not the job for you, keep going!”. Once I put my mind to something I GET RESULTS!

Just had my interview with Vivienne Westwood yesterday and It was literally the best interview I’ve ever had, I’ve never felt so free and confident before. I prepared, I knew a lot about the company, but I love how they made it more about me, my motivations and my experiences. Rather than testing me! Must give a shout out to the team at Vivienne Westwood.

I woke up this morning in awe of the email I got stating that I’ve been offered the position! I was over the moon! *Inserts Track – Post Malone – Congratulations* I must say this is God! Giving me the willingness to push through even when things are tough!

I’m not even writing this post to boast about my opportunity but I was thinking of this post for a while now and I was Just about to write about the struggles of how hard it has been and the realities of Graduate Life… So I hope some of this post will inspire and motivate you guys to pursue whatever you want!

So let’s move on to… LIFE AFTER UNIVERSITY WITH NO STUDENT FINANCE. Let me tell you the BROKE life is real after university unless you have secured that salary job, times are really hard out here. I mean, I’m working during the weekends but that’s not even enough, I’m grateful to even have a job but the fact that it’s not in the field I want is a total bummer.

I think that’s another thing that drives my motivation! I wanna keep moving up no matter how hard or long it’s gonna take like I said DON’T GET COMFORTABLE WITH BEING COMFORTABLE.

Don’t get me wrong the competence and demand out there is so crazy right now it can put people off. But you can and You will, There is something out there for everyone and we just have to put our mind to it!

One thing they don’t tell you is that not everyone has their shit together once they Graduate, A couple of us are still here trying to find ourselves. And honestly, that’s Okay…To be honest just because you have graduated don’t feel the pressure of having to get into something for the sake of it. Find out your true passion and pursue it! Its so easy to say let me just get this job because I need money now, but honestly whatever is for you will eventually come to you, just believe in it!

I could probably ramble on more but, I think you already get the gist ha ha! Sooo….

To sum up this post, the moral of the story is… I’ve learned that “All That Glitters Is Not Gold” likewise “Being a graduate is really not what you think it is”! It is what you make it…I always underestimated the fact that Life after University is hard but I believe it now.

I really hope you understood where I was coming from In this post and I hope to get through to one or maybe even two of you, who have read this post!

Let me know some of the things you have learned about similar scenarios, I would love to know down in the comments section!

Outfit Details

Top, Sunglasses & Earrings – Primark

Jeans (I rolled up) – Next

Shoes – New Look

Love From, Bose x